It's OK to say no. Here is how and why it's actually good for you


Saying no is something that we find less easy to do.  However, if we are to feel good about ourselves in the long run we need to be able to say no when we already have too much going on.

Whether you are juggling home with work or keeping a home and looking after children, there are is always something to be done. There is almost certainly at least another dozen things waiting to go on to the to do list. This is often the time when someone asks a favour of you. Right?

Well, what do you do? I mean, you wouldnt't want to upset that someone or make their life harder by not helping, would you?

This is how many of us think. We think we would be "a bad person" if we said no. I know that there was I time that I did. It was not a good place to be, stuck between taking on yet another thing to do or being a bad person.

The truth is, that it does not have to be that way and here is one way to rethink this situation:

First off, you are saying no to the task rather than the person. You are also saying yes to all the things that you want to get done for yourself and others. If you were to take that new task on, what would fall off the to do list to fit it in? 

Secondly, spend some time to brainstorm where alternative help could be found for the person seeking your assistance. You may not be able to do the task yourself but you may know someone who can, or a different way that the other person can get it done.

Lastly, you are going to prevent any resentment from building up. You are helping keep the relationship with that person healthy. All to often we do things and do so with a grumble. This builds up over time and can lead to a blow out over the most silly of things.

This advice works just as well in the workplaces as it does, socially or at home.